The wish list of a dying mother: Cancer sufferer leaves husband the 100 things he must do with their two young sons.

 Kate Greene with her sons Reef and Finn on holiday
Diagnosed with terminal cancer, Kate Greene had to come to terms with the fact that she would not see her young sons grow up.
But, determined to be an ongoing presence in their lives, she drew up a ‘mummy’s manual’ of more than 100 instructions, hopes and ambitions for her two boys to read after her death.
Mrs Greene, who died at the age of 37 following a two-year battle with breast cancer, wanted Finn, four, and Reef, six, to visit a Welsh beach where she holidayed as a child, attend an international rugby match and go to Switzerland, where her husband St John proposed to her.

St John and Kate with their sons Reef and Finn on a trip to Disney World, Florida. Kate's 'to'do' list requests that her husband takes the boys there again

She outlines basic principles she wants Mr Greene, 44, to instil in the boys, such as to be always on time, to treat girlfriends with respect and to make up after a row.
She also makes it clear that they should never smoke, ride motorbikes or join the Armed Forces.
Other instructions are heartbreakingly simple. She asks her sons to find their own four-leaf clover, learn to play a musical instrument and grow sunflowers.

 StJohn and Kate on their wedding day in 1996. The devoted mother left a touching 'to do' list of over 100 instructions for raising their two young sons.
She also notes things she liked, such as walks on the river bank and learning butterfly and bird names.Selflessly, she even urges her husband to find another woman so the boys have a female influence.
Mr Greene plans to tick off all the wishes, and has already fulfilled some, including buying a dining table for the family to eat round and building a playroom extension for their home in Clevedon, Somerset.
The ex-paramedic, who now runs an outdoor pursuits company, met his future wife, an insurance underwriter and part-time scuba diving teacher, in 1984.
Tragedy first struck in December 2005, when Mrs Greene was pregnant with Finn. Doctors found a tumour in Reef’s abdomen.
Given a 6 per cent chance of survival, he had intensive chemotherapy then surgery to remove the tumour, which damaged nerves in his legs.

Doctors warned that he might never walk again but, incredibly, he recovered and the cancer went into remission.

Then in April 2008, Mrs Greene found a lump in her left breast. She underwent 18 months of chemotherapy, but doctors told her the disease had spread too far and her treatment was stopped.
Her condition deteriorated and two months later she needed oxygen tanks at home to survive. She died in January this year

TEACH THEM TO BE ON TIME AND SAY WHAT THEY MEAN ... AND ALWAYS KISS THEM GOODBYE

Kiss boys 2 x after I have gone

Go to as many school activities as possible - praise assemblies etc

Don't put pressure on Reef re bed wetting. There are tablets to reduce wee production at night - doctor can give when suitable.

Please teach them to be on time and say what they mean

Don't fill outside with your boats - give boys space to play

Go caravanning with cousins or let boys go long weekends

Singe's pepper sauce and WKD

Do not like windy weather

Do not like tomatoes unless in sauce or soup Would like Reef to learn recorder or guitar Finn the drums and electric keyboard

Mummy loved Finn's laugh and how he sucked his thumb and folded his ear in

Mummy liked walks down the river bank

Mummy liked catching crabs

Mummy wants daddy to use phrase Acres and Acres

Mummy liked learning butterfly and bird names and would have loved to have hand fed a wild robin liked she used to feed the squirrels

Would love the boys to find 4 leaf clovers

Don't leave Finn out - try and have quality game time with him too

Please don't go on off the beaten track holidays as I STRONGLY believe that vaccinations in Reef and me triggered the cancer

Need to measure me on door frame - Mummy was 5ft 1in. With size 5ft and usually weighed about 8st 10lbs

Don't let them ride a motorcycle or scooter

Don't let them smoke and remind them why Would like them to do an after school club Finn Stage Coach, Reef cubs

Would like driveway done

Never leave more than a week before making up - life is too short

Ruth good for parenting advice as she has two boys same age gap - if conflict between grandparent views

Find a woman to settle down with so the boys can have a female influence and stability in their lives

Always kiss boys goodbye and good night

Grow a sunflower every now and again

Want them able to swim before boating on their own ie 50m without mask and snorkel

Would like dining room table so you can have family meals once a week at least

Would like school photos bought every year

Take the boys to see an international rugby match

Need to set up certificate boxes for swimming badges, school achievements etc

Please teach them to respect women and not double date

Would be good if they settled down sooner rather than later so you get to see grandchildren

Would like you to take them for walks along mummy's favourite beach where she used to go as a child

Would love them to find one of those fairy mushrooms - the red ones with the white bits on

Don't want the kids to go back to Disney or Lapland too soon - these were our memories take them back when needs be when they are about 10

Take the boys to Switzerland for New Year and visit the special place where daddy proposed to mummy

Please use the money for a playroom for the boys as Ken would probably let you have a bit of his land to play on and call Mum's Place or Priddy Pools
Would like drawings (any ones from school etc), pictures of boys and clothes with me. Christmas cards, birthday cards
Mummy loved how sparkly Reef and Finns eyes were in Lapland
Mummy loved Reef cuddles at night Likes white gold, silver and aquamarines
Liked sattelite spotting and watching for shooting stars
Loved guinea pigs and butterflies Walnut whips, club biscuits, strawberry cheesecake
Try not to let them go into the Forces

Move down south if rest of family thinking of doing so

Like wild flowers - red campion, cuckoo spit, daisies primroses and flowers in wedding arrangement
Teach them to say what they mean on the phone
Would like them to have a playroom and climbing wall

Mummy liked walks along the beach and Mendips, rockpooling and walks in the woods and finding creatures of all kinds

Mummy liked phrase "Infinity Elves"
Find four leaf clovers at usual sites
Don't ride motorcycle or scooter especially on the road
Take lots of photos especially in your teens
Make scrap book of your adventures
Irish Blessing Pictures of us in boys room
Plank on pier in Clevedon
Parental advice from James H/Jane de Bude
Kiss goodbye even if leaving for a short time
School photos in last book
Keep a record of acheivements
Always help them if they ask
Mum's place Kens/Priddy/Lyme
Finn's cuddles were always very special
Go and see Southern (northern lights?)
Mummy loved moths, snakes and slowworms Orange cub biscuits, jam and jelly, lemon curd
Mummy loved ivory roses, ivy, gipsophellia
See Skippy and Rachel Down Under
Ruth - cup and some clothes
Take boys to Lundy
Help All Saints School and try to get Reef extra help
Keep in touch with Maria and Lyne, Disabled team
Sort out fish tank, Pebble chess set, Netball centre
Don't like hockey, very good at maths